Dating websites and self esteem
Another example, if a woman doesn't usually dress up, but puts the effort in and does it from time to time, but no one notices or compliments her, she'll stop trying. You have no idea if she will respond; so when and if she shows interest you go deeper.How many times, I can't count I've personalized and crafted a witty message to only have no reply.Also, even if you do read their replies and get a nasty response, it's just them being childish. Just as you don't reward tantrums by reacting to them, you shouldn't let that crap affect your self-esteem. Unlike some folks I don't feel there is some kind of textbook answer. I just choose not to deal with certain things from time to time. If it's an issue at all, most people could read a profile/forum post or 2 and walk away with a tremendous boost to their ego,confidence ,self esteem. I am confident and**** as all hell - for business - I will talk you out of thousands of dollars and make you feel good about it - hell you will probably refer your friends, family and coworkers to me for doing it. Just sayin' PS: Equating one's dating life like some type of system of manipulating women into "some kind of deal" seems odd to [email protected] nr. Oh, I might add: Leaving the business world and all the silly BS associated with it is such a blessing. (I could not get the proper grammar because the name was already taken)I met someone who "met her" (there was a huge debate to state if she was the actual princess but her stories seemed justifiable apparently) anyway, she told me of the encounter. Yes, but I can understand why some don't send one since the rude guys ruined it for the rest of us.Re: Myself and others getting lo/no response to e-mails; never bothers me. Granted, less impersonal if your involved in the forums. 16 Manipulation and pseudo confidence is for the business world. Maybe one day we'll all say the same about the dating world........ Especially the nuts who send insulting messages when she doesn't answer him right away.I suppose the opposite could also be true but I tend to get hassled by dudes more than anything. Maybe folks just need to relax a bit and try to enjoy life right now rather than stress out about what might happen tomorrow?Depending on your personality, it can affect your self-esteem.You call in disrespectful, I call it preserving my self-esteem! Most of the messages have a sexual tone and there is nothing in my profile that would even "go there". At some point, I asked a good male friend of mine what the heck is going on. "They probably know they do not have a chance with you so they are going for the sex angle, hoping you'll go for that."Seriously? If sites such as this one have any value, it is strictly limited to providing a point of contact where people can meet, exchange information, interact, decide if, and, or when they choose to meet, and ultimately either stay together as a pair-bond couple or go their separate ways. I don't think we have anything in common, good luck in your search."And several times (not just once), I got a really nasty answer to that. In this process I have made more friend connections. Who could let this kind of situation put a chink in their armour? But that means that i've rejected 9 out of 10 women as they didn't elicit enough interest for me to mail them.
But at least in this medium, you can easily ignore any future comments from them. What's really annoying is when someone selects yes or maybe that they want to meet you, you don't really care for them but decide to give um a chance anyway... Dating is a learning process and I try my best to find value in all [email protected]^^^^^^^perfect & others. I personally feel it comes from a lot of early childhood experiences. Being on/off a dating site should be totally irrelevant. As much as we disagree, my two above counterparts from north of the border have made me chuckle more than once. I am confident and**** as all hell - for business - I will talk you out of thousands of dollars and make you feel good about it - hell you will probably refer your friends, family and coworkers to me for doing it. You can have all the confidence in the world - but if it doesnt translate into actual productivity .... I take that back, a ham sammich can be damn satisfying at times. Perhaps this perception seeps through in the dating field. Do you know the story of Anasthasia the missing Russian Czarina? Would I like to get a response back when I sent a thoughtful reply to a lady?
You've just decided to use the tool how you want to based on who you are. I get a big kick out of getting to know women on distant continents or chatting with grandmas...it's a whole lot of fun.
Hell, I even enjoy butting heads with people I disagree with, as long as it's done in a civil manner.
And after a couple months of no replies, I give up, delete my profile, and go back to meeting people the old-fashioned way, swearing I'll never use online dating services again. It's also particularly frustrating when women expect you to put extensive effort into your profile, but the vast majority of them hardly write more than 3 or 4 lines of text.
I guess that's supposed to mean that you're expected to ask them a ton of questions... tantalizing replies), then you have to reward the behavior...